Empower Yourself With One Question

Everywhere we look, we are constantly being told what to do, and I fucking hate it. ...I absolutely hate it. 

Sometimes the messages are obnoxiously loud and clear, but sometimes they are very subtle, which, somehow, makes them more convincing. 

But despite their delivery, they end up crowding our heads and make it harder to see our own truth. And that’s when we start making decisions that aren’t in our best interest. 

In today’s short, sweet post we’re going to silence the noise, think for ourselves, and find empowerment by asking one simple question.


Welcome to the blogcast, Unlocking Wellness! I’m Crystal McLain, curator of Crystal McLain Creative, an online community and resource dedicated to sharing empowering, creative care for the mind, body, and mother-lovin’ soul.

If you’d like to learn more about all that I have to offer you can visit me at crystalmclaincreative.com. And if you enjoy the content I’m creating, and would like to support my work, you can join the The Dream Team at Patreon and score some sweet perks in return. Memberships start at just $3/month.

Alright. Let's get to it.


Okay…We are roaming this gorgeous planet, with a really cool feature, and it’s called, free will. But my question is, who’s actually using it?

I mean, think about it. 

So much of what we willingly, WILLINGLY do every-single-day is NOT actually stuff that helps us thrive. 

In fact, it’s doing just the opposite. 

So, why would we choose something that causes us physical or psychological harm? 

Why would we choose something that limits us?

I really want you to think about that for a minute. 

Think about all the things you do in a day. Think about how you spend your energy. But more importantly, think about the shit that occupies your brain most of the time. 

What’s going on up there?

Is there chatter rattling on, telling you that you’re too much or too little of something? 

Are you making decisions based on fear or judgement? 

Are you trying to live up to someone else’s standards? 

If you have free will, which you ABSOLUTELY do, then why would you choose to live like this?

I’ll tell you why. 

Because you give your power away. 

Now, I used to get really defensive at this statement. 

“I didn’t give my power away, somebody took it.”

Did they? 

I mean, there have been some horrible things done to me. And I live in a system and culture that’s really invested in devaluing women, or people of color, or people who don’t subscribe to the gender binary, or indigenous people, or any marginalized people. 

And all of these actions, and all of these words, and all of the messages out there have absolutely nothing to do with WHO YOU ARE. 

They have nothing to do with your truth. 

They have nothing to do with your worth, your abilities, or your power.

The actions of others can unquestionably make you FEEL powerless, but they haven’t taken your power. 

You do not have a limited supply of power. 

It’s not like you have a cupcake, and someone takes your cupcake, and now you don’t have a cupcake. 

You are always powerful. You may not always feel it, but you are.

You are. 

You are powerful. 

That’s why it’s important to learn about your internal systems, and figure out what empowers your mind, body, and mother-lovin’ soul. 

And it’s one of the reasons why I created CMC in the first place. 

I wanted to create a space where people could safely practice taking back their power, and re-write their rules for wellness.

Because, for me, personally, that’s what SELF CARE has been all about.   

It’s about changing the narrative to something empowering, and finding small, simple acts that I can practice that actually help me thrive, instead of investing my energy in things that wreck me and keep me feeling powerless. 

And it’s my mission to inspire others to do the same. 

Alright, I also want to say this; we all do this. 

We all give our power away. Even those old white dudes, in their fancy suits, with all the money, fucking things up for the rest of us, they’ve given their power away. Their money isn’t power. Their status isn’t power. Their desperate need to control others doesn’t mean they’re powerful.

True power is being able to arrive in the moment and ask yourself: How is this helpful? 

How is this helpful?

This is the golden question.

How is this nurturing? How is this restorative? How is this empowering? How is this going to benefit my mind, body and soul?

Use your gorgeous, capable, creative brain to determine what’s going to serve you. 

Then confirm your power by making the decision, despite how challenging it may be, to either accept, decline or change what is in this moment.

You are so powerful. I cannot say it enough. 

…I’m actually getting choked up...

Make it your fucking mantra. 

Say it before you go to bed, and make it be the first thing you say in the morning. 

I. Am. Powerful.

Alright my friend, that’s it for today. If you find yourself subscribing to the bullshit try to remember to ask yourself, “how is this helpful?” Trust that you have the power within you, to make the healthy choices, even if they’re hard. You can totally do it. I know you can.

If you’d like more empowering, creative care for your mind, body, and mother-lovin’ soul, I’d like to invite you to join the Dream Team. We are an ever-growing community committed to living our best lives. And if you’re already a member, don’t forget to snag today’s bonus content. I’ll leave links to all the things below in the show notes.

I love you.
I appreciate you. 
Thank you so much for being here. 
I'll see you soon. 



Older Post Newer Post

Leave a comment

Please note, comments must be approved before they are published